why does God Allow this?

After a horrible day yesterday, Sunday and a really bad Sunday night. I wake up to praying for God to take this away from me because i don't really think that it is fair!

I am a young relatively healthy woman. Who doesn't smoke drink or use drugs. I fully believe in God and Jesus and that Jesus died for our sins. the holy spirit thing confuses me but I'm not gonna say it doesn't exist. I am just saying i don't really understand it.

So why Would God Allow a God fearing Christian to get sick like I am? Why?

I was always taught that if something Bad happens in your life it is because someone whose life your touches, whether it be your sister, your mother or your whole family, all the way down to your mailman or that person you spoke with in line at the grocery store. or perhaps someone you didn't even ever talk to. but someone needs to see you go through this and come out on the other side either as a winner or a looser, because it happens both ways. the only one who controls if you live or die is God.

So who has to learn from my illness? It should not be my family, mostly we have all come together. My family was bathed in fire two years ago. before my fathers illness, we were growing apart. we never got along, we fought. and not just one or two of us it was a free for all. everyone fought with everyone. but Daddy got sick and we all got together. and started getting along. well for the most part. and we have continued this on to today.

We remain close. and so when we found out I was sick. I am forced to think to myself did I miss something? I am certain that everyone of us has done the same thing. are my priority's in line? just because they are in line the way they always have been, does that mean this is how they need to be inline now?

Before my daddy was ill they were:
1 God
2 My husband
3 My child
4 my extended family
5 my job (never thought much of working but i need $$ so i kinda have to)

But after i found out how ill my father was my priorities changed a lot!
1 God (cuz hes always #1)
2 my dad
3 my husband
4 my child
5 my extended family

I put my father above EVERYTHING in my life. my life WAS my father every moment of every day every thought was of him.

I am a bit lost now though i don't know how to set up my priorities I guess I will just have to work on that. I really hope that everyone has already fixed theirs and made certain its the way it needs to be. because, if this is because of someone in my family that did not learn the lesson they were supposed to learn the last time, if they don't learn it with me, who will God use as an example next?